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PIe ase dont post this for you for feel sorry fot me, i really dont, but sometimes writting is good therapy and talking is good, yes men, that's ok! It really is!

I've always written from my heart and today I belive honesty is truly the best policy. I've kinda shared most of my life via social media AND I've got not one regret, it's just me! And I make no apology for me!

My mum is dying in front of my very eyes, dementia is cruel as are so many other life taking conditioners. I now have a greater understanding of the pain this drawn out process is! My uncle Mike just lost a battle with cancer in a very short space of time, my heart breaks for his son, Elliot and his family. Watching someone you love so deeply and slowly go away is beyond heartbreak.

The problem is when you suffer from PTSD and one of your major triggers is loss it's like magnifying it by 100!

When my brother died in a car accident it was sudden, no goodbyes, last words or amends, it just happens and the pain is so deep, watching and hearing my mum is just as bad, although you get to say things, you also get to watch the process of dying! It's simply horrific. The pain is beyond any words I could write. Its just soul destroying!

So the point of this blog?

I beg you to pick up a phone, talk to someone you love, reply to a text, be kind and thoughtful, think of others and as I always say, :We only have today!" We do ityreally do! Love, empowerment of others and hugs, should always be the starting point of any day!
Life can go in seconds, don't waist it! Eat the cake, do something that scares you, help someone, don't plan ahead, do it now!
You, yes YOU!  Are unique, beautiful, important, relevant, life changing and capable of so much, belive in yourself as I do you!

Am I hurting? Yes, and that's ok men!

It's a "We" thing not a "Me thing! Guys.

We got this and you lovely lot.

To hurt is ok, to talk about it is ok and to be vunrable is ok. You see guys, I just talked!

Please join me.

You are not alone.

I just can't get my head round it!

I thought I'd write a post about things I just cannot get my head around! I don't need replies, it's not a quiz!

Buying a "99" ice cream for £2!

1p pieces!

Racism!

Always saying 'Hello" To Becky Martin when  she does the weather!

Anyone who hits or smacks children. They lost it, not the kid! It's my number one pet hate!

When buying a glass of wine it's poured into a metal tube thing then poked into a glass with a measuring line!

Buy one get the second one half price! I only want one!

Parents who don't put Sun screen on thier young children!

Parking restrictions!

Homophobia!

The cost of makeup! (Dad to a daughter)

How a fax gets put into a machine and arrives at the other end in the same format!

Being unkind or nasty to someone to make someone feel better!

Getting hayfever at 42 years old!

Hurt.

Dating!!

Why men are ashamed of crying, emotion and being true! We got this Men and it's ok.

Michael Gove!

Michael Grove again. Back stabber! Power hungry and disloyal!

Anyone who is cruel to an animal.

Not replying to a text, message or phone call!

Black pudding!

Tax returns!

Remembering passwords!

Lies.

Why men stand up for a wee and women sit down! Why can't we all just sit down?

Why first class costs £6000 And economy £500. Leg room and better wine! Although an upgrade is the best feeling in the world!

Fighting, stabbing, shooting!

Men who put down women because they are women. I just don't get it!

A packed gym in January. An empty one in March!

Black pudding!

People who wear socks with Sandals!

Men who wear "Uggs"

People who love tomatoes but can't have tomatoe soup.

Homework! Do our young ones not do enough!

Why Simon Cowell is not "Sir Simon!"

The milk cartons in hotel rooms when there is a fridge! Bring the fresh milk!

Getting hayfever at 44!

Motorbikes with three weals!

People who use people to better themselves!

Vegans! What? No Sunday roast?

People who ride motorbikes in shorts and T -shirts. Have they not watched the A&E programs!

Hurt.

Trying to change your whole self to look like or be like someone famous! Save the money and go on holiday!

How a traffic warden can be happy in thier job!

Spelling!

How my phone knows exactly where I am and what I'm doing!

Frigin duvet cover!

Why Gary Barlow never realised "Dying Inside?"  Such a beautiful song and so personal to me!

Why Dermot never got to host the American "The X Factor!"

Anyone who has not watched "Love Actually" "The eagle has landed" "The sound of music"  and anything on "Netflix" This list could go on forever!

Why people on building sites have to wear a helmet and high his jacket even though thier is nothing that fall on them and when on TV I'm pretty sure we know where they are with all the cameras and lights! Actually let's break this down....Bloody "Health and safety!"

Some people's eye brows!

Unkind people.

The bloody PC brigade!

FIFA!

And finally before I bore you all, I honestly cannot get my head around those people who walk into an empty store with a barrier system and still stick to the rules of said barrier system! Actually I hate the rules!

Stand up, stand out, have the best day and I'll never get my head round everything, so I've learnt to just smile at it!

A letter to my teenage self!

I thought I’d write a letter to your teenage self, with bullet points and no music , although the music would have been good!

Take from this what you will!

Dear Ian.
Not everyone is going to like you and that's ok. You honestly can’t please everyone and you don’t have too! It’s not part of life s deal!
Tell someone you love them, it doesn’t make you weak it makes you honest.
Laugh out loud!
Just because you are a boy it doesn’t mean you can’t talk about stuff, it’s ok not to be ok.t’s ok to be sad, it’s ok to be scared, it’s ok to cry, it’s ok to be vunrable , it really is ok to be you.
One day you won’t have to call a girl and speak to the parents first!
Drugs are a one way street to death, misery and no escape from reality. Step away, they don’t work!
If an opportunity comes up, grab it with both hands and don’t crash it down, you are worthy of it! You really are!
It’s ok if you are shit at running!
You are never going to use a fraction or algebra again in your life!
Invest in a thing called “Mobile phones!”
Don’t judge people, only judge yourself.
Be kind always.
You’ll always find an odd sock!
Laugh at yourself!
Don’t drink that whiskey with your mates, you’ll never be able to smell it again!
Not everything comes with chips!
Swear!
Write a diary
Sex gets better with age, then worse! Sex is not love, respect yourself!
Your heart will break , it’s life.
Learn to cook something. Even one thing!
Save some money for a rainy day, honestly you’ll have a few of them!
Tony Hadley will still be singing , ABBA will come back and Paul Wellor, Madness, and Duran Duran are not going anywhere! However Rupert the bear, 99 red balloons and “Shut up ya face” best you let go!
Buying a house will send you into meltdown.
You will never sort the cables out behind the TV! Ever!
Nothing will feel better than a new pair of trainers!
Make your bed every morning.
Call someone.
Give back to some one.
Say sorry and mean it along with making amends.
On a scone, jam before cream!
Life is not about money, power, success, ego and fame. Life is about sitting alone with yourself, just happy.
Have a drink at 6am at an airport, it’s the law!
You don’t need to iron t shirts in the winter,  a jumper is going on top anyway!
Don’t spend money on a window cleaner, do it yourself, it’s very therapeutic!
Get a jar and throw your odd change in it, you’ll need it one day!
If you are on holiday on a wooden sunbed you just made it! If you are not, you still made it, you are still on holiday!
Piers Morgan will always be your friend, drive you mad and never be offended.
Custard is  the gift that keeps on giving!
Loyalty is everything. At any cost never ever shy away from it.
Be spontaneous!
Don’t question it, it is what it is. Embrace it!
Jump in a swimming pool fully clothed , if you do it on New year’s eve you just nailed it!
Do some painting and decorating, after 2o minutes of “Cutting in" on the edges you’ll understand why working hard to never have to do this is so important!
Make tea every 5 minutes for your decorator!
Changing a duvet cover will drive you mad!
Go to the Maldives, Thailand, America, Bali, Blackpool, Wales, Scotland and without question, Barbados!
Always have a toothpick!
Fairy lights wrapped around a tree are heaven!
You are going to meet someone called Simon before anyone knew who Simon was. Stand by him at any cost.
Butterscotch angel delight is heaven on earth.

Be brave!

Support a football team.

Hug some one again..

Be honest with no shame!

What are you worried about, Ian? You’ve got a roof over your head, food, an amazing job and a kid who loves you in conditionally You got this!

Put crisps in your sanwhich!

Never eat salad when out for dinner!

Don't buy a sit up machine thing, you'll only hang your clothes on!

Again....Laugh!

Travel!

Hug.

Love.

Dance!

And always be kind and the change! You have that power Ian. You really do!

And always be true to you! Because you are everything!

Hi Ian....listen....